Updated: Mar 25, 2021
That’s how many flights I took in 2019.
That is how many flights I took in 2018.
60 hour weeks were common.
Late nights sitting at the hotel bar banging out more work was common.
Trying to exceed at everything I had put in front of me just to take on more was my MO.
I figured out very quickly that my own identity and self-worth were anchored in what I could achieve at my job.
It was rooted in beliefs about security and exceeding in what I thought others would consider success.
It kept me running away from the very thing I needed to run towards. Myself.
I was not fulfilled, and my career had become my own self-fulfilling prophecy (sound familiar?)
The faster I ran the better I will be. Or so I thought.
DO NOT BELIEVE THIS!
I am grateful for the career I have had thus far.
I wish someone would have yanked me down to the ground sooner. I wish someone would have told me that there would always be more work to do but nothing else is guaranteed.
Work took priority over everything. It buried everything else that existed. Friendships, family, relationships, and hobbies.
As someone who has be called a workaholic more times than I care to admit, looking back it it was how I have identified myself for the majority of my career, especially early on.
I consciously have to make an effort each day to be the hard worker I am and not the workaholic I was.
Running your my own company makes this feel impossible somedays. But then I remember the reasons I left to go on my own.
I am here to tell you that there is a difference between a hard worker and a workaholic.
Hard workers think of work as a required and (at times) pleasurable obligation. Workaholics see work as a way to distance themselves from unwanted feelings and relationships.
Hard workers keep work in check so they can be available to their family and friends. Workaholics believe that work is more important than anything else in their lives, including family and friends.
Workaholics get excitement from meeting impossible demands. Hard workers don’t.
Hard workers can take breaks from work while workaholics can’t. They think about work regardless of what they’re doing or who they’re with.
You deserve to do what you love and love the life you live.
It is possible to do work and play in harmony. Life is a journey not a destination.
Life is about being integrated, not balanced.
Balance requires us to give up something to take something else on.
Integration allows us to live fully in how we desire. It encompasses everything we do being in harmony not just what we do at work.